I’m a Magpie
I’m just going to come right out and say it: I hate this book. I hate everything about it, from the smirking, toilet-trashing toddler on the cover (who, a larger illustration two pages in to the story seems to indicate, has just drowned the family cat), to the stalker mother who climbs into her adult son’s bedroom window to sing him a freaking lullaby. Maybe I just don’t understand what it’s like to be a mother, maybe I’m a heartless old spinster, but, DANG. That’sjust weird. And I’ve read Oedipus. I know from weird. But, obviously, I’m in the minority here. A cursory Googling reveals that people love this book. So I guess it’s time I made my peace with it. The story is quite simple. A young mother with a new baby sings a simple lullaby: “I’ll love you forever/I’ll like you for always,/As long as I’m living,/my baby you’ll be.” The baby grows up, as babies do, and does the things that kids do, from making messes and flushing watches, to becoming a surly teenager and refusing to bathe. But his mother still loves him. And she still sings him that song, on every other page, in a sort of hypnotic refrain. Eventually, the baby moves out, and his mother still loves him. The aforementioned creepy stalky lullaby scene happens. Then the mother gets really old, and tells her son (who only lives across town, mind you), that “You’d better come and see me because I’m very old and sick.” So he drags himself across town, picks her up, rocks her back and forth and sings, “I’ll love you forever,/I’ll like you for always,/ As long as I’m living/my Mommy you’ll be.” And then he goes home, and he stands, “for a long time at the top of the stairs,” goes in to his infant daughter’s room, and the we-have-no-boundaries-lullaby cycle begins anew. And I’ll admit it. That sunrise/sunset bit at the end does bring the merest hint of a tear to my eyes. But it’s not a good tear. It’s a “You got me, you bastards” kind of tear. So: Who is this book for? People who feel the mother in Runaway Bunny shows a disturbing lack of engagement in her son’s life. Parents looking for something to read aloud to the babies they can’t believe they love so much. Folks who have no inner cynic and are looking for a good cry. It seems like Love You Forever, already in its 75th printing, is the kind of book that self-selects. If you like it, you LOVE it. And the rest of us just try to pretend it isn’t there. I’d like to dedicate this post to my mother. |
I'm a librarian. Special skills include dog charming, brochure writing, slapdash cooking and long-winded nattering. I also enjoy watching the sunset's reflection in the tall buildings downtown.
For a while there, I taught classes on Classical literature, philosophy, and the history of religion at New College of California. I have an MA and an MFA in Writing, and live on a boat in Sausalito, CA.
Momeester
April 19th, 2010 at 1:27 pm
I hate this book too!! Even more than I hate Runaway Bunny. I once took a class where we discussed this book. It was vicious. The people who love the book are going to never let their kids live their own lives and those who hate it are going to send their own mother to the a horrible nursing home and never ever visit her. The poor male professor was overwhelmed by all the anger, called a recess and when we came back moved on to another book.
I think you and your seester are lucky I hate this book.
Nora
April 19th, 2010 at 2:58 pm
I just read on the author’s website that he wrote the song (which led to the book) after he and his wife had two babies that were stillborn. And now I feel like a jerk.
Nora
April 19th, 2010 at 3:37 pm
Although now that I think about it some more, I think it raises an interesting question about grief and art. Are strong emotions the enemy of literature? Is a certain amount of distance from real-life events needed to create art? Or is this one of those questions with no real answer?
Nora
April 19th, 2010 at 5:06 pm
Another interesting tidbit from the author’s website. Apparently, his usual publisher balked at this book, saying it “wasn’t a children’s book.” And sales are apparently unusually high among seniors. Could this be a non-children’s picture book?
your beeeeegest fan
April 19th, 2010 at 10:18 pm
eep.
Dadoo
April 19th, 2010 at 11:23 pm
Ack! I’ve been warned. Charlie Brown might have said “good grief!” but this seems like toxic grief, not good at all.
Joanne de Groot
May 16th, 2010 at 12:31 pm
I’m with you, Nora! I hate this book too. I’m not a huge Robert Munsch fan to begin with–I love The Paperbag Princess and that’s about it–but this one just drives me crazy. I used to cringe when people came to the bookstore I worked at and wanted to buy it as a baby gift. There’s just something about this book…